Not only is it difficult for us gals when we don’t know what’s going on in our guy’s heads and they’re not listening to us, but it’s also, annoying and unpleasant for them when they don’t know what to do to make you feel better. Men and women can accomplish many of the same things, but we think differently and rationalize differently, as well

Here are some tips on understanding your guy better and getting him to listen:

• - Don’t ask/tell your guy 20 different things at once and expect him to remember every single thing and with details, its not going to happen. That’s over kill for a dude especially when they usually only focus on one thing at a time. How can he really listen when he’s trying to figure out what is what?

• - He’s not sure about his career, should this be a dating deal breaker? As long as he knows who he is as a person and what he stands for, his career is really none of your business and you shouldn’t concern yourself with it.

• - This is the most important to know in my opinion- The biggest difference between men and women is that women are complex so much more than men could ever imagine while guys are way simple, so much in fact, that we can’t wrap our minds around it. When your guy tells you something and it just sounds too plain too simple, believe him! He means it, he doesn’t have to ponder around a simple idea like us women do for hours on end.

• - Can you change a guy? You might be able to change things aesthetically like his wardrobe, his fragrance, stuff in that nature. Maybe even minor “behaviors” but he’s always going to be who he is. Women often make the mistake of falling in love with the guy they hope he’ll be someday. ( That’s your bad) When you meet a guy, he’ll basically show you who he is in a short span of time and what you see is what you get.

Being aware of the things mentioned above will help you understand your guy much more and not have unrealistic hopes. It’s not like we’re a piece of cake either. If you want him to listen to you, tell him straight out that you need his attention. Don’t play games and don’t test him, because he doesn’t know this, he doesn’t concern himself with these things, you just need to be straight forward and understating & listening is going to come upon more naturally.

Check out more helpful relationship advice on Why Guys Feel That You Owe Them Sex.

Below you will find some helpful tips to help you on your online dating journey. It doesn’t matter whether you’ve been on board the online dating scene for some time, or this is your first go at it. It’s important to remember  that just as you are browsing through hundreds of ladies profiles trying to see who are the ones to stand out, the women are doing the same thing. That’s right, so before you go sending emails lets focus on your online profile first. If you want to get the right response, you’ll have to put some thought and work into it.

*Your pictures! First of all yes you MUST have pictures; no pictures equal no responses! While it’s important to have pictures up it’s even more important what kind and how many pictures you display. How many pictures should you add to an online dating profile? It’s agreed that 5-10 pictures is ideal, make sure they are flattering and ACCURATE pictures of yourself. Don’t post up pictures of yourself with your friends male or female. The pictures should be of yourself . If you have kids or pets you can add one picture of them. This is ok since it also gives the other person something to comment on.

*Your profile! This is a woman’s first insight on who you are and what you are about. This is the first impression you will have on her. Make yourself stand out, don’t write the same things as everyone else. You love to have fun and make the most out of life… Great so does everyone else, at least on their profile. Talk about things that make you unique and who you are. Talk about things that are important to you, make jokes to show you have a sense of humor. Next, you’ll want to make sure that your profile is the right length. You don’t want it to be too short or over-exaggerated either. Read it and see if you would want to keep reading or if the length will have skipping over it. Last finish it off by asking a question like recommended restaurants/lounges. This will once again give the women an opening to email or message you.

* Your outgoing emails! Send many there’s nothing young with emailing many women. After all the more you email the more responses you’ll be capable of getting. Not everyone is going to reply, it’s ok don’t take it as a sign of rejection. Some people don’t check their accounts daily, some may have already started someone and some may not be interested. Life goes on! Keep it moving keep sending out your emails and replies. Keep them short, sweet and to the point. Use humor when ever possible and always end it with a question. By ending it with a question you are leaving it open fr them to reply.

It’s no big mystery that all guys enjoy sex, well, so do women. But it’s much more distinct in men for they’re not afraid of asking for it a hundred times a day, especially if you’re in a relationship. Though asides from wanting sex frequently, they often feel that you owe them sex. It’s like this tab they’re keeping and then one day they pass you the past due balance.

Here are some reasons why guys feel like you owe them sex:

A lot of these are so silly, it’s unbelievable. But you better believe it, because they really do rationalize these reasons.

• - He got a promotion.

•  - He accompanied you to a baby shower.

• - He bought you dinner.

• - He sat through a chick flick with you.

• - He went on a double date with you and it sucked.

• - He gave your mother or grandmother a ride to do some groceries.

• - He played golf or tennis or any other game with your father.

• - He gave you a heart shaped tub as a present.

• - He washed the dishes or through a load of laundry in to wash.

Alright so silly is an understatement for these reasons for in which your guy feels like you owe them sex. These reasons are outlandishly ridiculous and hilarious. But mind you, they will use these things to tell you that you owe them sex. They will rationalize these reasons and don’t even try to tell them that next time you’ll drive their mom to the grocery store, because they will just tell you it’s not the same “because your mother is insane while his is a saint.” There’s no winning. There is one good part about all these petty excuses, they resort to this because they totally dig you, find you sexy and want your body. So do comply from time to time and just have a good laugh with his “IOU” list.

Read more on some great relationship advice on What Is He Thinking Before Sex?

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